It’s so sad because waiting for validation will be the death of your dreams.
You cannot get what you want if you refuse to face the truth. You are struggling. You long for more. We all do. That tension between where you are now and what you want to become is what makes you human.
One of the most important revelations you can ever have is that your life and your happiness begins and ends inside your own mind.
One of the most important revelations you can ever have is that your life and your happiness begins and ends inside your own mind. What you say to yourself, how you treat yourself, and the thoughts that run on repeat are everything. It does not matter how successful, thin, famous, muscular, or wealthy you become, if you always focus on what’s “wrong” with you, you’ll never be happy.
Your relationship with yourself is the foundation for everything in your life.
Act like the person you want to become, no matter how you feel right now.
But when it comes to celebrating and encouraging yourself, you not only fall seriously short – you do the opposite. You trash yourself. You look at yourself in the mirror and pick yourself apart.
They’ve told themselves they suck so many times over the years and compiled so much evidence that it is true that this belief is now programmed into their subconscious mind. That’s why the person you love will even argue with you when you tell them how great you think they are.
It gets conditioned into you that love and acceptance are transactional. If you do what I say, then I’ll love you. Come to think of it, that’s exactly why you withhold love from yourself, you learned to in childhood.
You don’t need to change anything to deserve the love and acceptance you need. You just need to start giving yourself that validation.
But you may not know that you have three core emotional needs: to be seen, heard, and loved for the unique individual that you are. When those emotional needs aren’t met, it’s not only a form of neglect, but you will feel unloved, invisible, and unfulfilled.
Regardless of how you learned to beat yourself up, the bottom line is if it makes you miserable, you have a responsibility to change it.
Stop and think about it. How does criticizing yourself actually help you? What if you could flip that and learn how to cheer yourself forward every day, every week, every year of your life, step by step, as you move toward your goals and your dreams?
I FORGIVE myself for the things I did when I was trying to survive. Every day I am becoming a better version of myself.
You should never mistake your brain’s messages for the actual truth about your ability to perform a task or as an accurate analysis of what the future will look like.
You can go for it today. Here’s how you start – you simply act as if you already have what you desire.
Ironically, the more trapped you feel by your life, the more you’ll convince yourself it’s okay.
The lynchpin to your happiness at work is whether or not you have a manager who cares about you.
Change requires you to do things that feel hard and scary. Change requires courage and confidence.
I gave myself permission to believe I could have these things. That permission to believe you are capable and worthy of having what you desire is powerful.
You are doing better than you think. Step by step, day by day you are making progress. Trust the process. Life has a way of giving you what you want in the most unexpected ways. It will happen when you are ready and the time is right. Just keep moving forward. You’re closer than you think.