People say you need to be strong, smart, and lucky to survive hard times, war, a natural disaster, or physical torture. But I say emotional abuse – anxiety, fear, guilt, and degradation – is far worse and much harder to survive.
They say nothing to me in a very loud way.
No one picks a friend for us; we come together by choice. We are not tied together through ceremony or the responsibility to create a son; we tie ourselves together through moments. The spark when we first meet. Laughter and tears shared. Secrets packed away to be treasured, hoarded, and protected. The wonder that someone can be so different from you and yet still understand your heart in a way no one.
As A-ma said, every story, every dream, every waking minute of our lives is filled with one fateful coincidence after another.
Don’t blame yourself for things that maybe happened,” she said.
Man becomes wiser and more mature through life experience. The same can be said of tea.
As the eldest daughter, I had always been responsible for my younger siblings. Now I had to provide their food and clothing and be a second mother to them. My father was no help. He was a kind man, but he shuddered under the added responsibility. Too often I found him outside, alone with his sadness. No man was built to shoulder the full weight of feeding and caring for his family. That was why he had a wife and daughters.
How can the moon be scooped from the water’s surface, or flowers be plucked from the void?
Sometimes you must experience heartache to have a treasured result.
Every mother must leave her children to work, and every mother suffers, bu we do it.
Well, Chinese used to be seen as low, right? Working on the railroad, in laundries, and stuff like that. Now they’re seen as smart and wealthy. I mean, isn’t there the stereotype of the model minority? I read an article for school that said people like us – not you, Dr. Rosen – are now labeled as inquisitive, persistent, and ambitious. With ingenuity, fortitude, and cleverness.
I thought I could use idealism to solve my inner conflicts, but in healing my inner conflicts I destroyed my idealism.
My mother had died in the sea, but we could never forget that it gave us life.
The government labels the haenyeo a cultural heritage treasure – something dying out that must be preserved, if only in memory. How does it feel to be the last of the last?” If they’re academics, they’ll want to talk about Jeju’s matrifocal culture, explaining, “It’s not a matriarchy. Rather, it’s a society focused on women.
I grew up believing that rice was to nourish and that tea was to heal. Now I understand that tea is also to connect and to dream. That seduction is deeper and more profound than could happen with any man.
Danseuse routine and my fame grew. I could walk into a.
DR. ROSEN: Does the phrase grateful-but-angry have resonance for anyone? You can be grateful you have your mom and dad, because they love you and they’ve given you good lives with all kinds of privilege.
You are very smart. You must be very well educated. You are very pretty. You must be very rich because you’re a writer.
What can we do? We’re only women,” she says. But it’s because I’m a woman, that I dare to go.
It took me me many years to realize that my perceptions at this time was completely wrong.
People keep asking me why I don’t return to China. I tell them I can’t return to a place I’ve never been. In.