A self made man is a rarity and hated by the parasites that floated to fame thought their parents, relatives and contacts.
The true success is the person who invented himself.
The only way marriage can work is if a man respects the woman and she is a thinking woman and he wants to work on the marriage.
If you cannot work on the marriage or the women is a moron, staying married and cheating makes the most sense because divorce is disruptive to the family life and your bank account.
For me, the Church is the enemy.