Love is an action, never simply a feeling.
To love well is the task in all meaningful relationships, not just romantic bonds.
There will be no mass-based feminist movement as long as feminist ideas are understood only by a well-educated few.
Contrary to what we may have been taught to think, unnecessary and unchosen suffering wounds us but need not scar us for life. It does mark us. What we allow the mark of our suffering to become is in our own hands.
To build community requires vigilant awareness of the work we must continually do to undermine all the socialization that leads us to behave in ways that perpetuate domination.
When we face pain in relationships our first response is often to sever bonds rather than to maintain commitment.
Young people are cynical about love. Ultimately, cynicism is the great mask of the disappointed and betrayed heart.
The one person who will never leave us, whom we will never lose, is ourself. Learning to love our female selves is where our search for love must begin.
There is light in darkness, you just have to find it.
If I do not speak in a language that can be understood there is little chance for a dialogue.
We have to constantly critique imperialist white supremacist patriarchal culture because it is normalized by mass media and rendered unproblematic.
I began writing a book on love because I felt that the United States is moving away from love.
There must exist a paradigm, a practical model for social change that includes an understanding of ways to transform consciousness that are linked to efforts to transform structures.
To truly love we must learn to mix various ingredients – care, affection, recognition, respect, commitment, and trust, as well as honest and open communication.
Feminism is a movement to end sexism, sexist exploitation, and oppression.
Living simply makes loving simple.
Feminism is the struggle to end sexist oppression. Its aim is not to benefit solely any specific group of women, any particular race or class of women. It does not privilege women over men. It has the power to transform meaningfully all our lives.
Commitment to truth telling lays the groundwork for the openness and honesty that is the heartbeat of love.
The power of patriarchy has been to make maleness feared and to make men feel that it is better to be feared that to be loved. Whether they can confess this or not, men know that just is not true.
But love is really more of an interactive process. It’s about what we do not just what we feel. It’s a verb, not a noun.