If we think our job here on earth is to fix ourselves, we will keep looking for the broken places. If we believe our job is to be kind, we will keep lavishing love on ourselves.
The problem with fantasy is the greatest benefit of fantasy: it prevents us from living in the present moment. But the present now is different from the present then.
You are not a mistake. You are not a problem to be solved. But you won’t discover this until you are willing to stop banging your head against the wall of shaming and caging and fearing yourself.
Treat yourself as if you already are enough. Walk as if you are enough. Eat as if you are enough. See, look, listen as if you are enough. Because it’s true.
Awareness is learning to keep yourself company.
What you pay attention to grows. Pay attention to your loveliness, your magnificent self. Begin now.
Most of us spend our lives protecting ourselves from losses that have already happened.
We eat the way we eat because we are afraid to feel what we feel.
Change happens when you understand what you want to change so deeply that there is no reason to do anything but act in your own best interest.
Weight loss does not make people happy. Or peaceful. Being thin does not address the emptiness that has no shape or weight or name. Even a wildly successful diet is a colossal failure because inside the new body is the same sinking heart.