We need to have intimate, enduring bonds; we need to be able to confide; we need to feel that we belong; we need to be able to get support, and just as important for happiness, to give support. We need many kinds of relationships; for one thing, we need friends.
One of the most important lessons of childhood is discovering what you like to do.
Getting control of stuff makes people feel like they have more control over their lives – maybe irrationally, but it’s one of these psychological truths.
I can DO ANYTHING I want, but I can’t DO EVERYTHING I want.
He is my fate. He’s my soul mate. He pervades my whole existence. So, of course, I often ignore him.
I grasped two things: I wasn’t as happy as I could be, and my life wasnt going to change unless I made it change.
I have a lucky perfume. I love beautiful smells, but I save one of my favorite perfumes to wear only when I feel like I need some extra luck.
I needed to change the lens through which I viewed everything familiar.
Behind our unremarkable front door waits the little world of our making – our home.
Having a messy coat closet should not be a big deal in a full life, and yet there’s something about getting control of that coat closet that’s surprisingly satisfying.
Happy people make people happy, but I can’t make someone be happy, and no one else can make me happy.
Do good, feel good; feel good, do good.
I always say you can self-medicate through closet cleaning. Everyone knows that feeling of a clear surface, and how it makes you feel you can really focus and start your work.
Be a storehouse of happy memories.
There’s a kind of magical thinking about these kinds of things. Throw away those bad photos before the “magic” attaches to them, so the good ones stand out.
You can choose what you do, you cant choose what you like to do.
If you always use your stapler in one place, keep it there, instead of thinking that all the office supplies should go in one place. I’ve moved a lot of things around in my house because of that.
Getting paperwork under control makes me feel more in control of my life generally.
The absence of feeling bad isn’t enough to make you happy; you must strive to find sources of feeling good.
It’s so easy to wish that we’d made an effort in the past, so that we’d happily be enjoying the benefit now, but when now is the time when that effort must be made, as it always is, that prospect is much less inviting.