Some codependents become financially dependent.
Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.
Today I will stop trying to control my relationships. I will participate at a reasonable level and let the other person do the same. I can let go, knowing that the relationship will find its own life-or not-and that I don’t have to do all the work, only my share.
Today I will do something just for the fun of it. I will find something to do that’s just for me and I won’t worry about what I should be doing. I will learn how to make myself feel good and enjoy life to the fullest.
Today I will simply accept. I will relinquish the need to be in resistance to myself and my environment in any way. I will move forward in joy by accepting where I am right now.
Today I will tell myself that I’m lovable. Just because some people haven’t been able to love me in ways that worked doesn’t mean that I’m unlovable. I’ve had lessons to learn, and some of them have hurt deeply, but I can still love, and I still am loved.
If somebody rejects you or your choices, you are still real, and you are still worth every bit as much as you would be if you had not been rejected.
Today I will not wait for someone to come to my aid. I’m not helpless. Although help may come, I’m my own rescuer. My relationships will dramatically improve when I stop rescuing others and stop expecting others to rescue me.
Be patient. Relax and trust. Let go. Then, let go some more.
I gave three years of my life to take care of my dying mother who had Alzheimer’s disease. Being there for her every need for three years might have looked codependent but it wasn’t because it was what I wanted to do.
Love yourself just as you are.
Goals give us direction. They put a powerful force into play on a universal, conscious, and subconscious level. Goals give our life direction.
The new year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting to be written. We can help write that story by setting goals.
Today I will learn to reject shame. Shame is an overwhelming sense that who I am isn’t good enough. I realize that I am good enough, and that my imperfections are part of being human. I let go of shame.
It’s not what we don’t know that hurts us, people say. It’s what we believe is true that isn’t that does the damage.
Arranging for and allowing ourselves to have fun is an important part of taking care of ourselves. It helps us stay healthy. It helps us work better. It balances life. We deserve to have fun. Fun is a normal part of being alive. Fun is taking time to celebrate being alive.
Acceptance is the magic that makes change possible. It is not forever, it is for the present moment.
Make New Year’s goals. Dig within, and discover what you would like to have happen in your life this year. This helps you do your part. It is an affirmation that you’re interested in fully living life in the year to come.
Perspective will come in retrospect.
Going home means getting comfortable being who you are and who your soul really wants to be. There is no strain with that. The strain and tension come when we’re not being who our soul wants to be and we’re someplace where our soul doesn’t feel at home.