Learn the words: I feel. Let others say those words and learn to listen – not fix – when they do. We.
We will face and deal with reality – on our own time schedule, when we are ready, and in our Higher Power’s timing. We do not have to accept chastisement from anyone, including ourselves, for this schedule. We will know what we need to know, when it’s time to know it.
We can tell the truth. Lying about what we think, how we feel, and what we want isn’t being polite – it’s lying. We.
If we abdicate responsibility for our choices, we may become angry, sometimes full of rage at others for running our lives, for telling us what to do. We need to take responsibility. We need to trust ourselves.
We can discuss our feelings and problems without expecting people to rescue us too. We can settle for being listened to. That’s probably all we ever wanted anyway.
At least we know we’re alive if we’re reacting. At least we’ve got something to do if we’re obsessing or controlling. For.
As we develop our lives, set our goals, and find things to do that interest us, peace will become comfortable – more comfortable than chaos.
Our consciousness, as individuals and as a society, has been raised. We’ve realized that women have souls, and men have feelings.
Prayer and meditation help us affirm that our Higher Power cares for.
The important concept here is, get started. Light a fire under yourself.
Love and closeness often bring a sense of loss of control.
Feeling good about ourselves is a choice. So is feeling guilty.
It is almost impossible to have fun when we are bottled up with repressed emotions, worried sick about someone, saturated with guilt and despair, rigidly controlling ourselves or someone else, or worried about what other people are thinking about us. However, most people aren’t thinking about us; they’re worried about themselves and what we think of them.
Fun is a normal part of being alive. Fun is taking time to celebrate being alive.
The only limitations on you are the ones you’ve placed on yourself.
Change your perspective and enjoy the adventure. Let the child in you come out to play.
According to Earnie Larsen and others, the two deepest desires most people have are: to love and be loved, and to believe they are worthwhile and know someone else believes that also.1.
I saw people who had gotten so absorbed in other people’s problems they didn’t have time to identify or solve their own. These were people who had cared so deeply, and often destructively, about other people that they had forgotten how to care about themselves. The codependents felt responsible for so much because the people around them felt responsible for so little; they were just taking up the slack.
Codependency is normal behavior, plus. There are times we do too much, care too much, feel too little, or overly engage. We forget where the other person’s responsibilities begin and our responsibilities stop. Or we get busy and have so much to do that we neglect ourselves.
We are like singers in a large chorus. If the guy next to us gets off key, must we? Wouldn’t it help him, and us, more to strive to stay on key? We can learn to hold our part.