Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.
Resentments are hardened chunks of anger. They loosen up and dissolve with forgiveness and letting go.
If that person doesn’t want to be in your life, just let him or her leave.
I saw people who were hostile; they had felt so much hurt that hostility was their only defense against being crushed again.
We have as much time as we need.
Our best problem-solving resource is peace. Solutions arise easily and naturally out of a peaceful state.
God loves me enough to let me go through all the lessons I came here to learn, even the ones that hurt the most. His presence doesn’t deny me. It’s always there to help me see and understand what I came to this planet to learn.
When we’re surrounded by things that look impossible, making a simple choice to do something that’s possible is a powerful thing to do.
Choosing to take responsibility for ourselves and for the consequences our choices create looks like hard work, but it really sets us free.
We don’t just get our choice; we get the consequence that choice creates.
It’s hard to give up the self-esteem connected to being codependent and appearing ‘right,’ which is probably a survival behavior learned from growing up in a crazy family. It feels like you will actually disappear.
We rescue people from their responsibilities. We take care of people’s responsibilities for them. Later we get mad at them for what we’ve done. Then we feel used and sorry for ourselves. That is the pattern, the triangle.
The formula is simple: In any given situation, detach and ask, “What do I need to do to take care of myself?
Codependents make great employees. They don’t complain; they do more than their share; they do whatever is asked of them; they please people; and they try to do their work perfectly – at least for a while, until they become angry and resentful.
Taking care of myself is a big job. No wonder I avoided it for so long. – ANONYMOUS.
For each of us, there comes a time to let go. You will know when that time has come. When you have done all that you can do, it is time to detach. Deal with your feelings. Face your fears about losing control. Gain control of yourself and your responsibilities. Free others to be who they are. In so doing, you will set yourself free. ACTIVITY Is there an event or person in your life that you are trying to control? Why? Write a few paragraphs about it.
The only person you can now or ever change is yourself. The only person that it is your business to control is yourself.
Detaching does not mean we don’t care. It means we learn to love, care, and be involved without going crazy.
We do not lead others into the Light by stepping into the darkness with them.
As I’ve said before, no wonder we think God has abandoned us; we’ve abandoned ourselves.