You create yourself, whatever you believe you are. You are the way you are because that is what you believe about yourself.
The limit of your self-abuse is the limit you will tolerate from other people. If someone abuses you more than you abuse yourself, you walk away, you run, you escape. But if someone abuses you a little less than you abuse yourself, perhaps you stay longer. You still deserve that abuse.
This is the first step in using the truth as a scalpel: You find that the injustice that created a wound is no longer true, right now, in this moment. You discover that perhaps what you believe hurt you so badly was never true. Even if it was true, it doesn’t mean that now it is true. By using the truth, you open the wound and see the injustice from a new perspective.
The angel of death comes to us and says, “You see everything that exists here is mine; it is not yours. Your house, your spouse, your children, your car, your career, your money – everything is mine and I can take it away when I want to, but for now you can use it.
La vida es el mayor regalo que recibimos, y el arte de vivir es el arte supremo.
When you take things personally, then you feel offended, and your reaction is to defend your beliefs and create conflicts.
No te creas ninguna cosa que te haga sufrir.
We make an assumption, we misunderstand, we take it personally, and we end up creating a whole big drama for nothing.
It is always better to ask questions than to make an assumption, because assumptions set us up for suffering.
Selfishness, control, and fear will break almost any relationship. Generosity, freedom, and love will create the most beautiful relationship: an ongoing romance.
Someone can intentionally send emotional poison, and if you don’t take it personally, you will not eat it. When you don’t take the emotional poison, it becomes even worse to the sender, but not in you.
Forgiveness is the only way to heal. We can choose to forgive because we feel compassion for ourselves.
Very young children are not afraid to express what they feel. They are so loving that if they perceive love, they melt into love. They are not afraid to love at all. That is the description of a normal human being. As children we are not afraid of the future or ashamed of the past. Our normal human tendency is to enjoy life, to play, to explore, to be happy, and to love.
Life can be very easy when love is your way of life. You can be loving all the time. This is your choice. You may not have a reason to love, but you can love because to love makes you so happy.
When someone can touch what used to be a wound and it no longer hurts you, then you know you have truly forgiven.
Suffering makes you feel safe because you know it so well.
In a relationship, we can pretend to be the same, to think the same, to feel the same, to dream the same, but there is no way that can happen. There are two dreamers with two dreams.
Imagine that you love yourself just the way you are. You love your body just the way it is, and you love your emotions just the way they are. You know that you are perfect just as you are.
Socrates, one of the greatest philosophers of all time, took his whole life to get to the point where he said, “As for me, all I know is that I know nothing.
Humans have a need to explain and justify everything; we have a need for knowledge, and we make assumptions to fulfill our need to know.