Turn your heart toward what is good by cultivating forgiveness and compassion and mindful presence.
So when I feel overwhelmed, I usually go to a quiet place. A bathroom stall works wonders. I close my eyes, turn inward, and breathe until I can sense the still, small space inside me that is the same as the stillness in you, and in the trees, and in all things. I breathe until I can feel this space expand and fill me. And I always end up doing the exact opposite of screaming: I smile at the wonder of it all.
For every dream, there is automatically going to be resistance. But your sheer will and desire can be stronger than the shadow. You get to decide. You get to declare, I want this, and confront the fear head-on.
When you can really be who you are and find out where you fit and function from a place of comfort, then you stop working. You stop wrestling.
The secret is authenticity. The reason people fail is because they’re pretending to be something they’re not.
Many times we insist on having all the best things because that’s the only way we can ensure “quality of life” for ourselves. I can neglect myself in every other way, but if I have the best watch or pocketbook or car or square footage, I get to tell myself I’m the best and how much I deserve to have even more of the best. What I know for sure: Having the best things is no substitute for having the best life. When you can let go of the desire to acquire, you know you are really on your way.
One of the most important questions a woman can ask herself: What do I really want-and what is my spirit telling me is the best way to proceed?
If you’re holding anyone else accountable for your happiness, you’re wasting your time. You must be fearless enough to give yourself the love you didn’t receive.
The enjoyment comes from knowing the receiver understands the spirit of the gift.
Love is when you choose to be at your best when the other person is not at their best.
You can’t get mercy unless you give it. You can’t receive compassion unless you give it.
So creating a religion of your own, some people call this a smorgasbord religion. Taking a little bit from this and a little bit from that.
There is no need to struggle with your body when you can make peace with it.
Live free of regret and filled with as much joy, fun, and laughter as you can stand. You have a choice. Enjoy yourself.
To know that people care about how you’re doing when the doing isn’t so good, that’s what love is.
If you’re holding anyone else accountable for your happiness, you’re wasting your time.
As women we’ve been programmed to sacrifice everything in the name of what is good and right for everyone else. Then if there’s an inch left over, maybe we can have a piece of that. We need to deprogram ourselves. I know for sure that you can’t give what you don’t have. If you allow yourself to be depleted to the point where your emotional and spiritual tank is empty and you’re running on fumes of habit, everybody loses. Especially you.
It’s the airplane oxygen-mask theory: If you don’t put on your mask first, you won’t be able to save anyone else.
Mine is I’ve learned as much as I can learn doing this one thing. Now I need to move forward. And it happens when I’ve learned as much as I can learn at that thing. And then something else opens itself.
The great American mythologist, author, and philosopher Joseph Campbell once said, “The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are.