We are driven by five genetic needs: survival, love and belonging, power, freedom, and fun.
It is almost impossible for anyone, even the most ineffective among us, to continue to choose misery after becoming aware that it is a choice.
The day we stop playing will be the day we stop learning.
Effective teaching may be the hardest job there is.
What we get, and all we ever get, from the outside is information; how we choose to act on this information is up to us.
No human being will work hard at anything unless they believe that they are working for competence.
We can teach a lot of things, but if the teacher can’t relate by talking to a group of friendly students, he’ll never be a competent teacher.
Without pay, no human being will work up to their ability if he or she is not cared for and respected.
Caring for but never trying to own may be a further way to define friendship.
Unlike the weak, the strong neither give up nor are driven by pain into rash or stupid behavior. They don’t like pain any more than anyone else, but they are not willing to settle for short-term relief if it means reducing their options later. They don’t rob Peter to pay Paul, they face reality now.
To counter the avoidance of intellectual challenge and responsibility, we must reduce the domination of certainty in education.
What students lack in school is an intellectual relationship or conversation with the teacher.
Prior to being allowed to enter the profession, prospective teachers should be asked to talk with a group of friendly students for at least half an hour and be able to engage them in an interesting conversation about any subject the prospective teacher wants to talk about.
Using no control and using humor will build a relationship and make a dent to where the client puts the counselor in their quality world and then begins to relate and seek out the counselor. Effective therapy begins with the acceptance of the therapist into the client’s quality world.
We can pay teachers a hundred thousand dollars a year, and we’ll do nothing to improve our schools as long as we keep the A, B, C, D, F grading system.
Too many of us fail to fulfill our needs because we say no rather than yes, yes when we should say no.
They have this big book called the ‘DSM-IV,’ you know, that is supposedly written about crazy people, but I think it is a book that is written by crazy people!
You can acquire a lot of knowledge without ever going to school.
Everybody needs one essential friend.
The faster you go, the more students you leave behind. It doesn’t matter how much or how fast you teach. The true measure is how much students have learned.