For if you damn others for their errors, how can you not also damn yourself – your entire being or personhood – for your failings? Give some thought to that dilemma! Your hating others as persons, in other words, borders much too close on self-hatred.

— Albert Ellis

Albert Ellis Quotes

I get people to truly accept themselves unconditionally, whether or not their therapist or anyone loves them.

— Albert Ellis

Too many people are unaware that it is not outer events or circumstances that will create happiness; rather, it is our perception of events and of ourselves that will create, or uncreate, positive emotions.

— Albert Ellis

The expense of making yourself panicked, enraged, and self-pitying is enormous. In time and money lost. In needless effort spent. In uncalled-for mental anguish. In sabotaging others’ happiness. In foolishly frittering away potential joy during the one life – yes, the one life – you’ll probably ever have.

— Albert Ellis

If you prefer to perform well and want to be accepted by others, you are concerned that you will fail and be rejected. Your healthy concern encourages you to act competently and nicely. But if you devoutly believe that you absolutely, under all conditions, must perform well and that you have to be accepted by others, you will then tend to make yourself – yes, make yourself – panicked if you don’t perform as well as you supposedly must.

— Albert Ellis

Assume that most times when you feel anxious, depressed, or angry you are not only strongly desiring but also commanding that something go well and that you get what you want. Cherchez le should, cherchez le must! Look for your should, look for your must! Don’t give up until you find it. If you have trouble finding it, seek the help of a friend, relative, or REBT therapist who will help you find it. Persist!

— Albert Ellis

Men are not disturbed by things, but by the views which they take of them.

— Albert Ellis

Because when you don’t perform remarkably well the next time, back to slobhood you will go! And even when you do perform well, you will be anxious about not doing so next time. So you had better like your fine performance – but not deify yourself for doing it.

— Albert Ellis

Anger is the only negative emotion that people all over the world usually want to keep.

— Albert Ellis

To help people achieve the three basic REBT philosophies of unconditional self-acceptance, unconditional other-acceptance, and unconditional life-acceptance, cognitive, emotional, and behavioral methods, which are described in this monograph, are used.

— Albert Ellis

The next time you feel angry, try to become aware of some of the physical sensations and changes that are occurring in your body. Remember that physical reactions accompanying your chronic anger can lead to damage, illness, and possibly premature death.

— Albert Ellis

Keep my desires and goals in mind. Don’t insist that they must or must not be fulfilled. Let me work unfrantically to achieve them. REBT.

— Albert Ellis

Try to remember the last time you felt extremely angry. Recall what you focused upon and how you acted. Were you able to reasonably consider good courses of action? Were you able to look at all your options? Did you make the best decision? Do you regret something you said or did? If you are like most people, you will see that you hardly think and behave at your best when you feel enraged.

— Albert Ellis

You are still a person who completed a perfect project, but never a good person for doing so.” “How, then, do I become an incompetent or bad person?” “You don’t! When you do incompetent or evil acts, you become a person who acted badly – never a bad person.

— Albert Ellis

By forcefully telling nasty people off, or performing other cathartic acts, you will supposedly stop your aggressive energy from building to harmful levels.

— Albert Ellis

Annabel, one of my clients who cherished her perfectionism because she felt that it made her a fine writer and an excellent mother, was having a hard time with some of David Burns’s teachings against perfectionism in his book, Feeling Good. Dr. Burns, she thought, told her to give up all ideal goals and stick only to realistic and average ones. Then she couldn’t be disappointed or depressed.

— Albert Ellis

Having some support and the reassurance that my family, friends, or others will help me when I am anxious will often reduce my anxiety and panic. But because such support and reassurance may not exist or may not continue, I’d better not rely on it solely. I also had better gain self-confidence and self-support. 8.

— Albert Ellis

Evolution is arranged so that a species survives, not so that it will be happy while it survives.

— Albert Ellis

REBT’s Insight No. 1 holds that you have both healthy and unhealthy emotions.

— Albert Ellis

Choice gives you doubts and uncertainties. Therefore, you are always somewhat anxious.

— Albert Ellis

For if you damn others for their errors, how can you not also damn yourself – your entire being or personhood – for your failings? Give some thought to that dilemma! Your hating others as persons, in other words, borders much too close on self-hatred.

— Albert Ellis
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