Our lives are shaped by those who love us as well as those who refuse to love us...
Fears are educated into us, and can, if we wish, be educated out.
The friends who listen to us are the ones we move toward, and we want to sit in their radius.
Attitudes are much more important than facts.
The voice of the intelligence is drowned out by the roar of fear. It is ignored by the voice of desire. It is contradicted by the voice of shame. It is biased by hate and extinguished by anger. Most of all it is silenced by ignorance.
It is hard for a free fish to understand what is happening to a hooked one.
Self love is not opposed to the love of other people. You cannot really love yourself and do yourself a favor without doing other people a favor, and vice versa.
Unrest of spirit is a mark of life.
Hope is an adventure, a going forward, a confident search for a rewarding life.
One does not fall in love; one grows into love, and love grows in him.
The voice of the intelligence is drowned out by the roar of fear.
Chess is a more highly symbolic game, but the aggressions are therefore even more frankly represented in the play. It probably began as a war game; that is, the representation of a miniature battle between the forces of two kingdoms.
Set up as an ideal the facing of reality as honestly and as cheerfully as possible.
Police are not all bad guys. Nobody is all bad guys.
To “know thyself” must mean to know the malignancy of one’s own instincts and to know, as well, one’s power to deflect it.
We need criminals to identify ourselves with, to secretly envy and to stoutly punish. They do for us the forbidden, illegal things we wish to do.
Hope is a necessity for normal life and the major weapon against the suicide impulse.
Psychoanalysis has changed American psychology from a diagnostic to a therapeutic science, not because so many patients are cured by the psychoanalytic technique, but because of the new understanding of psychiatric patients it has given us, and the new and different concept of illness and health.
We have come to see that just as the child must learn to love wisely, so he must learn to hate expeditiously, to turn destructive tendencies away from himself toward enemies that actually threaten him rather than toward the friendly and the defenseless, the more usual victims of destructive energy.
It was his optimism that Freud bequeathed to America and it was the optimism of our youthfulness, our freedom from the sterner, sadder tradition of Europe which enabled us to seize his gift.