The results of any traumatic experience, such as abuse, can only be resolved by experiencing, articulating, and judging every facet of the original experience within a process of careful therapeutic disclosure.
Don’t ever dare to take your college as a matter of course – because, like democracy and freedom, many people you’ll never know have broken their hearts to get it for you.
It is very difficult for people to believe the simple fact that every persecutor was once a victim. Yet it should be very obvious that someone who was allowed to feel free and strong from childhood does not have the need to humiliate another person.
Only the mourning for what one has missed at the crucial time can lead to real healing.
You gotta keep that in check – you got to.
Today I should not be identified with any kind of regressive therapy.
An unacknowledged trauma is like a wound that never heals over and may start to bleed again at any time.
Genuine feelings are never the product of conscious effort. They are quite simply there, and they are there for a very good reason, even if that reason is not always apparent.
Every child has a legitimate narcissistic need to be noticed, understood, taken seriously, and respected by his mother. In the first weeks and months of life he needs to have the mother at his disposal, must be able to use her and to be mirrored by her.
The true opposite of depression is not gaiety or absence of pain, but vitality: the freedom to experience spontaneous feelings.
I sincerely believe that we not only have the right to know what is good and what is evil; we have the duty to acquire that knowledge if we hope to assume responsibility for our own lives and those of our children. Only by knowing the truth can we be set free.
In a world where England is finished and dead: I do not wish to live.
No one really believes in equality who’s on top.
Hate is perhaps the most dynamic of all emotions – fear may immobilize, love may stay the hand, but hate urges to action...
Rare indeed is the nature that does not become a little more intense when its own affairs come under discussion.
Silences, as every observer knows, have strange characteristics all their own – passionate silences, and hateful silences, and silences full of friendly, purring content.
It’s been my experience, Charlotte, that the crisis never comes as or when you expect.
People love to talk but hate to listen.
It is always difficult for a woman to be grateful for a form of chivalry that seems to be based on the premise that she is a moron.
Good manners are the techniques of expressing consideration for the feelings of others.