Diligence is not easy, but we can’t reach our goals without it.
To rescue people from the natural consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless.
The natural response to evaluation is to feel judged. We have to mature to a place where we respond to it with gratitude, and love feedback.
You have to be able to face losing some things you might want in order to be free to do the right thing.
One of the first signs that you’re beginning to develop boundaries is a sense of resentment, frustration, or anger at the subtle and not-so-subtle violations in your life. Just as radar signals the approach of a foreign missile, your anger can alert you to boundary violations in your life.
Independence is not an option for us. Remember, God existed without us.
Couples often live out years of falsehood trying to protect and save a relationship, all the while destroying any chance of real relationship.
Successful people stick to what they are good at and find ways to make that larger.
If you continue to blame other people for “making” you feel guilty, they still have power over you, and you are saying that you will only feel good when they stop doing that. You are giving them control over your life. Stop blaming other people.
Because dating is a human exercise, it can be a tightrope fraught with danger. You will be dating imperfect people, and some of them are more imperfect than others. In addition, you are not perfect either, so that complicates the picture.
True intimacy is only build around the freedom to disagree.
Faith goes beyond reason. It goes beyond what you can see. But it is as real as anything you can touch or feel.
When leaders lead in ways that people’s brains can follow, good results follow as well.
There is a big difference between hurt and harm. We all hurt sometimes in facing hard truths, but it makes us grow. It can be the source of huge growth. That is not harmful. Harm is when you damage someone. Facing reality is usually not a damaging experience, even though it can hurt.
Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.
Confronting an irresponsible person is not painful to him; only consequences are.
The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship.
The amount of truth a relationship can handle is proportional to the amount of perceived love that’s present.
We need rest not just so we feel better. We need rest for actual creation of what we’re going to need the next day.
A person who hasn’t grieved a significant loss has unfinished business inside and can cause others great grief as a result.