Cool is the emotional straightjacket. It makes us less available for connection which makes us less equipped for leadership roles.
First and foremost, we need to be the adults we want our children to be. We should watch our own gossiping and anger. We should model the kindness we want to see.
If you’re not in the arena also getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested in your feedback.
Shame cannot survive being spoken. It cannot tolerate having words wrapped around it. What it craves is secrecy, silence, and judgment. If you stay quiet, you stay in a lot of self-judgment.
What we know matters, but who we are matters more. Being rather than knowing requires showing up and letting ourselves be seen. It requires us to dare greatly, to be vulnerable.
Loving and accepting ourselves are the ultimate acts of courage.
It’s hard to practice compassion when we’re struggling with our authenticity or when our own worthiness is off-balance.
When the people we love stop paying attention, trust begins to slip away and hurt starts seeping in.
Every time we choose courage, we make everyone around us a little better and the world a little braver. And our world could stand to be a little kinder and braver.
Are you the adult that you want your child to grow up to be?
Connection, the ability to feel connected, is neurobiologically wired, that’s why we’re here!
Unused creativity is not benign.
When we deny our stories, They define us. When we own our stories, we get to write the ending.
We are so busy that the truth about our lives can’t catch up.
Knowledge is only rumor until it lives in the bones.
When failure is not an option, we can forget about creativity, learning, and innovation.
When you ask people about love, they tell you about heartbreak.
Vulnerability is the core, the heart, the center, of meaningful human experience.
At the end of my life I want to be able to say I contributed more than I criticized.
All the stuff that keeps you safe from feeling scary emotions? They also keep you from feeling the good emotions. You have to shake those off. You have to become vulnerable.