Empathy fuels connection; sympathy drives disconnection.
What makes something better is connection.
If we want to fully experience love and belonging, we must believe that we are worthy of love and belonging.
You can’t dress rehearse the bad moments.
We cannot give our children what we don’t have.
If we want to live and love with our whole hearts, and if we want to engage with the world from a place of worthiness, we have to talk about the things that get in the way- especially shame, fear and vulnerability.
I’m just so grateful, because to feel this vulnerable means I’m alive.
Through my research, I found that vulnerability is the glue that holds relationships together. It’s the magic sauce.
We’re all so busy chasing the extraordinary that we forget to stop and be grateful for the ordinary.
Rest and play are as vital to our health as nutrition and exercise.
If we want to cultivate hopefulness, we have to be willing to be flexible and demonstrate perseverance. Not every goal will look and feel the same. Tolerance for disappointment, determination, and a belief in self are the heart of hope.
We need to change what we say and what we allow to be said in front of us.
Think about what’s pleasurable, not just what’s possible.
Living a connected life ultimately is about setting boundaries, spending less time and energy hustling and winning over people who don’t matter, and seeing the value of working on cultivating connection with family and close friends.
We can only belong when we offer our most authentic selves and when we’re embraced for who we are.
You cannot shame or belittle people into changing their behaviors.
If you can’t say it to me in front of my kids, don’t say it.
Cruelty is easy, cheap and rampant.
Caring about the welfare of children and shaming parents are mutually exclusive endeavors.
Shame hates it when we reach out and tell our story. It hates having words wrapped around it- it can’t survive being shared. Shame loves secrecy. When we bury our story, the shame metastasizes.