We can only belong when we offer our most authentic selves and when we’re embraced for who we are.
You cannot shame or belittle people into changing their behaviors.
If you can’t say it to me in front of my kids, don’t say it.
Cruelty is easy, cheap and rampant.
Caring about the welfare of children and shaming parents are mutually exclusive endeavors.
Shame hates it when we reach out and tell our story. It hates having words wrapped around it- it can’t survive being shared. Shame loves secrecy. When we bury our story, the shame metastasizes.
Knowledge is important, but only if we’re being kind and gentle with ourselves as we work to discover who we are.
I now see how gifts like courage, compassion, and connection only work when they are exercised. Every day.
I don’t have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness – it’s right in front of me if I’m paying attention and practicing gratitude.
Want to be happy? Stop trying to be perfect.
The difficult thing is that vulnerability is the first thing I look for in you and the last thing I’m willing to show you. In you, it’s courage and daring. In me, it’s weakness.
Compassion is not a virtue – it is a commitment. It’s not something we have or don’t have – it’s something we choose to practice.
Wholeheartedness. There are many tenets of Wholeheartedness, but at its very core is vulnerability and worthiness; facing uncertainty, exposure, and emotional risks, and knowing that I am enough.
It’s in our biology to trust what we see with our eyes. This makes living in a carefully edited, overproduced and photoshopped world very dangerous.
If we can’t stand up to the ‘never good enough’ and ‘who do you think you are?’, we can’t move forward.
Courage is like – it’s a habitus, a habit, a virtue: You get it by courageous acts. It’s like you learn to swim by swimming. You learn courage by couraging.
Worthiness doesn’t have prerequisites.
Perfectionism is self destructive simply because there’s no such thing as perfect. Perfection is an unattainable goal.
Hope is really a thought.
We’re raising children who have little tolerance for disappointment.