There is a big difference between hurt and harm. We all hurt sometimes in facing hard truths, but it makes us grow. It can be the source of huge growth. That is not harmful. Harm is when you damage someone. Facing reality is usually not a damaging experience, even though it can hurt.
Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.
Confronting an irresponsible person is not painful to him; only consequences are.
The extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a critical marker of the soundness of a relationship.
The amount of truth a relationship can handle is proportional to the amount of perceived love that’s present.
We need rest not just so we feel better. We need rest for actual creation of what we’re going to need the next day.
A person who hasn’t grieved a significant loss has unfinished business inside and can cause others great grief as a result.
He is the Truth, and He wants us to deal in truth with ourselves and our loved ones. We want the truth about you and your family to flood into and overrun the secrets that keep you in bondage to dysfunctional behavior and relationships.
To get greater than 100% return on a growth step, give up defensiveness. Defensiveness stifles performance, and destroys relationships.
Being right can never compete with doing well.
If your boundary training consists only of words, you are wasting your breath. But if you ‘do’ boundaries with your kids, they internalize the experiences, remember them, digest them, and make them part of how they see reality.
Who a person is will ultimately determine if their brains, talents, competencies, energy, effort, deal-making abilities, and opportunities will succeed.
A leader’s responsibility is to cause a vision and mission to have tangible results in the real world.
Anger is frustration at the fact that we are not God, and do not have control over reality.
One of the worst things you can die with is potential.
In a very real way, ownership is the essence of leadership. When you are ridiculously in charge, then you own whatever happens in a company, school, et cetera.
Dating is a give and take. If you only see it as “Taking,” you are not getting it.
Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinforce your children’s most primitive fears.
When a person travels through a few years with an organization, or with a partnership, or any other kind of working association, he leaves a ‘wake’ behind in these two areas, task and relationship: what did he accomplish and how did he deal with people?
Just as we leave the effects of our work behind in results, we leave the effects of our interactions with people in their hearts, minds, and souls.