Marriage is not slavery. It is based on a love relationship deeply rooted in freedom. Each partner is free from the other and therefore free to love the other. Where there is control, or perception of control, there is not love. Love only exists where there is freedom.
Love can only exist where freedom and responsibility are operating.
Whatever’s happening today, remember it is only ONE SCENE in a long movie. Don’t treat it like it’s the whole story. Keep writing the story.
The physicality of a real relationship – one that encompasses mind, body and soul – ultimately makes it more fulfilling and powerful than any virtual relationship ever could be.
Encourage literally came from “in courage.” The courage is put “into” you from outside. Our character and abilities grow through internalizing from others what we do not possess in ourselves.
Diligence is not easy, but we can’t reach our goals without it.
Spouses in healthy relationships cherish each other’s space and are champions of each other’s causes.
If people are really narcissistic or have a need to be seen as more than they really are, or to be admired as having it all together, then they cannot be followed and trusted by others.
To rescue people from the natural consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless.
The natural response to evaluation is to feel judged. We have to mature to a place where we respond to it with gratitude, and love feedback.
You have to be able to face losing some things you might want in order to be free to do the right thing.
One of the first signs that you’re beginning to develop boundaries is a sense of resentment, frustration, or anger at the subtle and not-so-subtle violations in your life. Just as radar signals the approach of a foreign missile, your anger can alert you to boundary violations in your life.
Independence is not an option for us. Remember, God existed without us.
Couples often live out years of falsehood trying to protect and save a relationship, all the while destroying any chance of real relationship.
Successful people stick to what they are good at and find ways to make that larger.
If you continue to blame other people for “making” you feel guilty, they still have power over you, and you are saying that you will only feel good when they stop doing that. You are giving them control over your life. Stop blaming other people.
Because dating is a human exercise, it can be a tightrope fraught with danger. You will be dating imperfect people, and some of them are more imperfect than others. In addition, you are not perfect either, so that complicates the picture.
True intimacy is only build around the freedom to disagree.
Faith goes beyond reason. It goes beyond what you can see. But it is as real as anything you can touch or feel.
When leaders lead in ways that people’s brains can follow, good results follow as well.