I don’t think you can have an authentic connection when one person is diagnosing the other.
The first step in healing is to put the focus on what’s alive now, not what happened in the past.
When people hear needs, it provokes compassion. When people hear diagnoses, it provokes defensiveness and attack.
We are this divine energy. It’s not something we have to attain. We just have to realize it, to be present to it.
NVC self-forgiveness: connecting with the need we were trying to meet when we took the action that we now regret.
Fear of corporal punishment obscures children’s awareness of the compassion underlying the parent’s demands.
We do not look for compromise; rather, we seek to resolve the conflict to everyone’s complete satisfaction.
NVC helps us connect with each other and ourselves in a way that allows our natural compassion to flourish.
If we want to make meetings productive, we need to keep track of those whose requests are on the table.
The spirituality that we need to develop for social change is one that mobilizes us for social change.
NVC is a way of keeping our consciousness tuned in moment by moment to the beauty within ourselves.
As long as I think I ‘should’ do it, I’ll resist it, even if I want very much to do it.
We can never make anyone do anything against their will without enormous consequences.
The number one rule of our training is empathy before education.
Classifying and judging people promotes violence.
A difficult message to hear is an opportunity to enrich someone’s life.
Getting in touch with unmet needs is important to the healing process.
When we are angry, killing people is too superficial.
Enemy images are the main reason conflicts don’t get resolved.
Every time I mess up is a chance to practice.